God is sovereign, He wants us to follow Him and to obey His bidding. We can choose to be disobedient. But if we are, He will gently at first, and then more forcefully, bring to our mind the realization that He wants our first love. He will not force Himself on you but seeks to draw you to Him.
What is the New Birth? It is a work of God in our hearts that makes us completely new. It is a passing from death to life, from Satan's kingdom to God's, and it will affect every area of our lives. Do you know what all this New Birth really involves?